Self-doubt seems to be a pretty common factor when it comes to people not living the lives they want to live. I experience self-doubt from time-to-time. My inner self-doubter sometimes says, “Who wants to listen to you? You don’t have a perfect life. You don’t have it all figured out.” That’s when I have to stop, breathe, and remind myself of the following: no one has a perfect life, and no one has it all figured out. Those two things are not the point of life coaching, and any life coach that portrays themselves as having it all figured out is probably a hack. I am a normal, every day person just like everyone else. I have goals and dreams. I have obstacles to overcome and barriers to break down. Some days I feel like Snow White singing while she cleans and all the woodland creatures are singing along. Other days I am more like Ursula from The Little Mermaid when she puffs up really big and destroys everything in the sea.
A life coach must be committed to constantly building a better life for themselves as well as helping others to do so. The tag line I have chosen for my business, Vision In Action, is: Co-creating the life you desire. I was asked once if I am living the life I desire and I ecstatically responded, “Yes!” Later in the day, I started to wonder if that were true. After some thinking, I reminded myself that I was being ridiculous; of course its true. I am living the life I desire, but there are aspects of it that I am always working to improve. For instance, I envision having a year-round garden that literally pukes vegetables at my family. Well, some years all of my broccoli dies and the slugs eat my cabbage. My husband and I are constantly working together to find ways to improve the garden next year. There are many missteps, but each trial brings us closer to our goal of year-round, homegrown nutrition.
Long story short, I did not begin life coaching because I believe that I am better at life than other people. I began life coaching because I am skilled at helping others work through all the crap, that I have first-hand knowledge, life can throw at us.